How to get over mid-30s crises
30 is a number that makes an impact, that makes you rethink important points in your life, and why? It's another year, so why do we feel such sudden pressure? Is it real the crises of the 30 years?
Even if you are not one of those who seems to end the world as if they were footballers and their careers are over, surely you have noticed that feeling, no matter how slight it was.
The thing about turning 30 is that it is a date with a deeply rooted cultural component in all of us.
Although today we have accepted different ways of living and how our future can be, in our subconscious turning 30 is a turning point. Whatever life you want or would like to have, entering our thirties makes us feel that we have to decide now and for sure, as if we don't have time for more trial and error, as if until now we have been playing the DEMO and now we will get the real game.
What can you do to overcome the crisis of the 30?
Relativize.
A year ago you were celebrating your 29th at full throttle and now you are overwhelmed by whether it is better to get a mortgage or continue renting. Relax, the important thing is to find the lifestyle that brings you the most happiness.
Take control.
Do you know a friend who feels that he has chosen absolutely nothing in his life, as if he had always been carried away? This is one of the dramas that creates the most frustration in the long run. What do you like to do? and what are you good at doing? These are the two questions that you should ask yourself, if you investigate and work on them you will be sure to find a path that is right for you.
Relations.
The fear of loneliness brings very bad decisions with it. Relationships are complicated and even more so if we add fears of loss, loneliness, abandonment, social pressure, etc. We don't have any magic recipe, what we do know is that if you focus on doing something you love and your life revolves around it, you will attract people who fit in with it, be it your partner, friends, pets... and you won't feel alone,
Give thanks and live.
The world is quite shallow and will make you feel powerless if you haven't got money, power or both. Many people relate financial well-being to strong self-esteem and it is actually more of a dependency. According to several studies, the happiest people are those who they spend their (little) money traveling, having unique experiences, getting to know new places, trying new restaurants, etc.
We feel the richness of life through vital experiences. Don't worry about how much money you manage to save, money will come but time doesn't come back.
Accept the events.
At thirty you will surely have already experienced some kind of loss, an older relative or a painful breakup. Assuming the difficult moments of life seems easy, but we do not always do it in the best way and we enter a state of nostalgia for when we were children and nothing bad happened to us. Respect your grieving times and give yourself the space to feel and accept.
And above all ... Take care, man.
